It’s morning time. You wake up, stretch, proclaim that this day is good and start the routine. There may be a few mouths to feed, a diaper to change or a husband to hit upside the head (with a pillow), to get the gears of the house turning. Eventually you make your way into the bathroom, and if there’s a mirror in it, you catch a glance and say….well, what do you say? Or what do you think?
One criticizing look at ourselves and quickly our attitude’s reflect ungratefulness, shame, discontent and insecurity. With unspoken words, I’ll go through various body parts and tell them what they need: the butt needs more squats, the “girls” need more push ups (or a bra?)…and so on. We all do it. We analyze our reflection and then inflict punishment by diet and exercise.
Is this what the relationship between health and our bodies is supposed to be? I swear, this is the same thing as using pruning shears to give yourself a hair cut. Exercise and diet have a different purpose than punishment, they serve us much better as a means to take care of ourselves rather than punishment and shame-slaying.
I’m here to tell you to stop. When our mind so roughly analyzes our physical form, it QUIETS the Spirit of God. It is utterly unacceptable to Him and completely destructive to our spirits.
“Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. Do not stifle the Holy Spirit.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-19
Our thoughts of insecurity dampen the noise of GRACE that could be BOOMING through us. I’m ugly, I need to cut back, I’m gaining, I need to lose 10 inches….all this thinking may push us to join a program or begin a healthy lifestyle, sure. But when health and physical prowess come from a place of discontent and self-resentment, it only leads to another thing to be unhappy about.
It is normal to feel this way. Every woman (and man) goes through this, but we need to take our insecurities by the shirt collar and face them like the women we are. We are so much more than our flabby skin and wrinkled chins. We will never find 100% health, happiness and security until we understand the true purpose of our body, mind and soul.
Ok, so now what do we do with this body of ours?! I’ve birthed two (HUGE) babies, got some kind of GI issues going on, and I’m no spring chicken! Is there hope? With great guilt and depression, I’ve worn the labels of Unmotivated, Insecure and Lack of direction and those are not pleasant places to be in. Girlfriends, if you want to truly understand what your body was made for, look no further than the one who created it. If we want to feel SECURE in our bodies and minds, we need to learn to be with the one who give us definition and life!
“Let your roots grow down into Him [God], and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness.” Colossians 2:7
Our God commands us to be still, to simply rest and be with Him. Read His Word, write it out, meditate. This is where our roots grow deep and where His work begins in us. If God is our #1, life will look a lot different than body shaming, number counting and roller coaster diets. It will be one full of strength, laughter and direction. A life of security in God rather than our appearance is: restful, passionate, purposeful, content, and you’ll finally get “it”. God will begin to show you what to do with your body; what your body, mind and soul were meant to do as a whole. He will unearth passions and talents that maybe you have forgotten were there. He will show you that you can trust Him. He will replace your fears with hope knowing your weakness binds you to God. A life of just getting by will become one with life-changing impact on you and those around you. By embracing imperfections AND strength you will become a woman of valor. Through physical, emotional and relational battles, a dependence on God will make you strong to the soul. True confidence in the self is God-confidence.
“The [woman] who trusts in the Lord will be blessed. The Lord will show [her] that He can be trusted.” Jeremiah 17:7
On average, our health and fitness journey’s begin with resentment of who we are, what we look like and a severe case of the insecurities. Our health needs to come from a place that is ALREADY confident and secure. God wants to do a DEEP work in you. The definition of perfection and beauty is truly how God sees us. He sees us as DAUGHTERS, BEAUTY, more than CONQUERORS, a women of WORTH, His TEMPLES, FRIENDS, and His WORKMANSHIPS.
“She is clothed in strength & dignity and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25
Next time you miss a workout or gain a pound, feel no guilt or depression because God fuels you and HE defines you. What you do and how you feel does NOT. You are complete body, mind and soul and confident by the Spirit of God IN YOU.
If a health journey comes from a place where our looks are of concern, then it ends there too. From shameful reflections to prideful ones, it easily becomes all about our physical appearance when we all know that we are much more than that.
“Your beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle & quiet spirit. Which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:4
The first step in living a healthy lifestyle is contemplation. I want to hear from YOU! What are you contemplating doing with your health? Are you going through some of the things I described in this blog post? Don’t be afraid to reach out. This is a together thing.